Some was and other times I developed some bad habits. Now the important thing is to work with my psychiatrist to get me stable. They both swear that it is completely platonic. I stay up a little later watch TV or IM my son out in AZ and BS with some friends…. When I found out it had been going on for almost a year. He went drinking I made him leave he called me every vile name in the book said its my fault he lives on the street hes gonna die out there hesays. Achieving “normalcy,” whatever that is, is then pretty basic: I have been diagnosed with bipolar I disorder since I had my first summer mania at the age of 5. His “cheating” didn’t make sense. He moved in with her straight away against advise from all his family and friends who were all as astounded as me. When he is home he just yells at us and tells us to go away! So two nights ago, while she was in the shower, I snuck a look at her phone history and text messages. Since the affair, there have been numourous crushes, inappropriate emails and on-line affairs. I think she played a major part in my healing. © 2015 - 2020 The Bipolar Compass - All Rights Reserved. Look guys can i just tell it from the Womans perspective, i myself have bi-polar got diagonised a year ago and i am on medication and trying to live the “correct way” but i am finding myself looking for more exciting things and can totally understand what these woman in your lives crave…it horriable you do love and care for peoploe but this thrill ov excitment is somthing that cant be described, its like “normal” life is sooooo mundane and brings on depression…its hard to live wuth and u may say everybody wants excitment and yes they do but people who suffer from this disorder need EXTREAME excitment!!! It is so hard to come back from everything that I have done and I have not been successfully treated yet so I feel like a ticking time bomb. But unfortunately I dont know if we can live as man and wife again. It would seem to the world and to me that he was head over heals for me, just don’t understnad how he could just up and do this. He says they are happy to see him or to be around him not like me. There are times when people with BP simply cannot exercise good judgment. I have been married for almost 8 years. I have a wonderful husband and great sex life with him. Needless to say, after living through tremendous chaos for years, I have only been this stable and aware for the last five years. I wish your wife the best in her fight to stay stable. It was very easy to find willing partners. It is a diagnosis that until […] He finally came around and she noticed he had tried to cut himslef again. It will never get better than it’s worst day. Hot New # 1. These relationships can include friendships, family and romantic relationships. You choose to do the right thing or the wrong thing. All I can say is that I wish I could pick her up and shake that disorder right out of her and have a normal happy life together, but I know that that can not happen. I know how you feel have been going through something similar mine lives with other man then comes visit me once in awhile. you are a very strong individual,she is ill,speak to your gp and ask to be referred to a specialist with your spouse,do not think you are weak or to blame because you are NOT!! been with my gf for just over a year and had all the same issues , texting other guys , flirting but not caught her cheating , she swears blind that she would never cheat and never has in all past relationships but too many little things just don’t make me trust her Hi all…it’s so hard reading all the difficulties that everyone has experienced from bp. Here are six true stories about cheating in relationships to help you figure just what it is you're feeling. I haven’t seen or heard from my daughter in almost two years. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material [including but not limited to site title, graphic designs, logo, "Map" references { i.e. After all of this trauma he created and knowing that’s his “support system” was actually fueling his mania intentionally I couldn’t look at him like he was the monster. By Beth Last updated: 22 Feb 2011 ~ 1 min read. Then he asked her to leave town with him. We have been married for 10 years and I have been through an affair, anger, verbal abuse, and financial hardship. I am not married, but I dated someone who was diagnosed with BP this past year. I was feeling that maybe I was weak. Okay Okay… He is BP… Thats no excuse. He became less and less affectionate until he showed no non-sexual contact at all. He always tells me he loves me, but does not communicate with me. But she will continue to heal, as will our marriage. However; telling my husband that I feel he is bi polar, even in the most supportive and loving way did not go over well at all. I agree that these behaviors should not be enabled and that there are consequences that they need to be held accountable for. I think I could benefitrom reading more and even contributing. I would love her to meet someone. She is also bipolar. The end of the relationship ends differently though. Could be bipolar disorder, could be something else entirely, such as a thyroid condition. between 16 years of pain from fibro, six years of torment with my son’s bp and now this, i feel ready for a psyche ward. He then made two serious attempts on his life, almost ended up in hospital, is now seeing a team of nurses and a psychiatrist and they have diagnosed him with bi polar. Advice. Hey, I know what you mean (ezcept my wife is not cheating that I know of) it is hard to give up and to admit it is final. In the begginning he was the sweetest. I have been with people who have one or both of those issues and they seem to be comfortable with the unhealthy dynamic because they thrive on either being the rescuer and martyr or creating drama and pushing buttons so they can be the perpetual victim they are. How’s a guy supposed to live that way with bipolar? So….I’m living a life I never imagined I would. I was hurt, manipulated, belittled and even driven to the point of hitting him and keying his car. OHHHH NOOOOOOO!!!!! My wife has just found out about three weeks ago…she is my childhood sweetheart and she is DEVASTATED…she has studied psychology so understands what I have but that doesn’t stop the pain. It’s had when someone lies to you and you think you are in a wonderful relationship only to discover you were dating Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. Bipolar infidelity is a common – and tragic – consequence of mania and hypersexuality. This one was the worst. Please update your situation in the future. 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